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January 31, 2010
Miss Now Mrs Giveaway Winner
I am happy to announce the winner of the Miss now Mrs Giveaway
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January 29, 2010
Weekly News & Updates
Happy Friday Y'all...
Ways to save:
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Ways to save:
What's a girl to do when she wants to plan her dream wedding, but can't afford to spend big? Times may be tough, but savvy brides can still have a wedding that is not only budget-friendly but brag-worthy. RetailMeNot.com has made finding the best wedding related coupons, deals and promotions that much easier with their new Wedding Coupon Center. The new Wedding Coupon Center will showcase a continuously updated list of the top wedding-related coupons from among the more than 400,000 coupons currently offered on RetailMeNot.com.
FH's Wedding Band - CHECK!
I have FINALLY placed the order for FH's wedding band. One of my ad link sponsors gave us a great deal - so this is what we ordered...
It is the 6.5mm Euro Comfort Fit Palladium Ring in a size 9 (even though he measured a 8.75, we figured a 9 would fit better).
We decided to go with Palladium b/c its more scratch resistant than white gold, not as expensive as platinum and still light like titanium and durable like tungsten.
YAY! And i did get it engraved but i don't want to say just what yet b/c FH may read this ! I'll post what i engraved after he sees it :)
It is the 6.5mm Euro Comfort Fit Palladium Ring in a size 9 (even though he measured a 8.75, we figured a 9 would fit better).
We decided to go with Palladium b/c its more scratch resistant than white gold, not as expensive as platinum and still light like titanium and durable like tungsten.
YAY! And i did get it engraved but i don't want to say just what yet b/c FH may read this ! I'll post what i engraved after he sees it :)
January 28, 2010
Marital Counseling Session {Session 1}
We had our first marital counseling session... I don't know the exact words for it, but basically our Officiant, who is also my Uncle/Pastor/Marine (all one person... REALLY!) and FH and I webcammed. He was so enamored by the webcam and when my aunt came home she showed us her new puppy. LOL.
Our first session was just to kind of get an overview of what he hoped we can gain from the "meetings" and how we can use what we discuss to best equip ourselves for the task ahead... working on nurturing this fundamental relationship for the rest of our lives. A huge task, but we are starting with small assignments.
1) Think about short and long term goals as a couple. Figure out what we enjoy to do and set plans. FH and I said we like to travel, and our officiant said "then make goals so that you can have something fun to work towards besides just trying to pay bills".
2) Evaluate the marriage you know best - your parents. The good, the bad, the ugly... the truth. What do we want to do same and what do we want to do differently? Be truthful... This is a more daunting task but i think we are ready to tackle it
3) Re-evaluate Boys/Girls Night Outs... Now that we will be starting our life together and living as one unit, no longer two singles... how do we approach that? What about date nights? Discuss
So not too difficult... and my mind is already spinning with thoughts.
Have you had any counseling sessions? Have you found them helpful? Hurtful? What did you like best or worst about it?
Our first session was just to kind of get an overview of what he hoped we can gain from the "meetings" and how we can use what we discuss to best equip ourselves for the task ahead... working on nurturing this fundamental relationship for the rest of our lives. A huge task, but we are starting with small assignments.
1) Think about short and long term goals as a couple. Figure out what we enjoy to do and set plans. FH and I said we like to travel, and our officiant said "then make goals so that you can have something fun to work towards besides just trying to pay bills".
2) Evaluate the marriage you know best - your parents. The good, the bad, the ugly... the truth. What do we want to do same and what do we want to do differently? Be truthful... This is a more daunting task but i think we are ready to tackle it
3) Re-evaluate Boys/Girls Night Outs... Now that we will be starting our life together and living as one unit, no longer two singles... how do we approach that? What about date nights? Discuss
So not too difficult... and my mind is already spinning with thoughts.
Have you had any counseling sessions? Have you found them helpful? Hurtful? What did you like best or worst about it?
January 27, 2010
Wedding Porn Inspiration
My beautiful friend Jess sent me a link to this great post at Once Wed for Mary + Stefan's wedding and i had to share a couple images b/c i love her hair and that look...
So gorgeous, check out the rest at the Once Wed Blog.
So gorgeous, check out the rest at the Once Wed Blog.
January 26, 2010
Prime example of earlier post
So my post from this morning... where I called my own peeps out...Yea, sometimes the truth hurts but it needs to be said, right?
Well here's a prime example of what I mean... BRAVO to my guests who sent back their RSVP... but note - What is missing?
This one actually has a ":)" as well as "2" filled out for how many attending... yet ... do you see it? What's missing...
That's right ... I've got "2" Guests for each RSVP attending, but I don't know who they are... and sadly, I can't even try to deflect... the postmarks clearly indicate these are MY guests... which sadly will leave about 2-5% room for error that it is NOT a Korean person. LOL.
I guess I should still give props for taking the first step though, right? That's a huge deal... LOL.
All i can do is laugh...
Well here's a prime example of what I mean... BRAVO to my guests who sent back their RSVP... but note - What is missing?
This one actually has a ":)" as well as "2" filled out for how many attending... yet ... do you see it? What's missing...
That's right ... I've got "2" Guests for each RSVP attending, but I don't know who they are... and sadly, I can't even try to deflect... the postmarks clearly indicate these are MY guests... which sadly will leave about 2-5% room for error that it is NOT a Korean person. LOL.
I guess I should still give props for taking the first step though, right? That's a huge deal... LOL.
All i can do is laugh...
"Koreans don't RSVP"
Did you know that the history of RSVP comes from the French?
Wikipedia RSVP: "Répondez s'il vous plaît", a French phrase that translates to "reply, please." or literally "respond, if you please". It is with this meaning that invitation cards and similar documents are often marked with "R.S.V.P." It is standard practice to reply to an RSVP request whether confirming attendance or declining.
About.com specifies "It does not mean to respond only if you're coming, and it does not mean respond only if you're not coming (the expression "regrets only" is reserved for that instance). It means the host needs a definite head count for the planned event, and needs it by the date specified on the invitation."
Wow, I learned something new today. You see, I thought the RSVP was only if you were planning on attending the event. Now i see that you respond regardless... hmmmm
*Tape rewinds to last year*
An e-mail conversation with my cousin who's wedding was in October 2008 and she is complaining of that very thing...
Cousin Q:
koreans don't RSVP apparently.
but ... "you should know that everyone will come..." (quoting her mother/my aunt)
except of course the ones that don't bother to let you know that they have other plans, and let you find out through the grapevine...
The funniest thing about this convo, was my first response to my cousin would be, "well you know everyone is coming"... of course!!! But with our mother's family of 4 girls and 3 boys, and then all us cousins and second cousins - it's very hard to keep track of things...
The truth of the matter is, I think the concept of the RSVP is just very new to Koreans (1.5 generation or less). And yes, this is a blanket general statement and does NOT apply to all!
Even now, many Koreans are still having the weddings with open invitations, no reply cards included, Buffet style with everyone from your church and beyond showing up. Centerpieces were gone by the time the bride and groom actually entered the church hall b/c the older women had already gotten their food, eaten it, disposed of it and were on their merry way with your wedding centerpiece in hand headed home...
The formal weddings with invitations and reply cards, seated dinners, place cards, adults only and more, is just a concept that we are only getting used to now. And by "we", I mean "my Korean relatives, friends and etc"... although i do think its pretty common... here's why:
After googling the topic, a couple similar comments on online boards:
Camille writes: "We still have about 100 potential guests who have not yet RSVPed. Our wedding is about 5 weeks away. Now here is the problem. About 50 of them are Koreans. As I understand from talking to my in-laws Koreans are not really used to RSVP. They just show up on the wedding day. Chances are also that they show up with their husband or wife."
Mrs. Butterfly writes: "I know people are horrible about returning RSVP’s to begin with, especially Koreans, so I’m hoping this will make it at least that much more convenient. Just fill it out and drop it in!"
So it's not just me... So, what i did for some of my relatives is that I didn't even include an RSVP card. Why bother? They won't send it back. I'll waste paper and a stamp. Even when i told my mother she needed to RSVP, she just laughed and said "but why, you/they know i'm coming."
But i will give credit where credit is due, a few of her friends did RSVP and they did it early. I asked her if one "ajuma" was married to a non-Korean. She responded "No, that ajuma is just kinda like that" in regards to her actually RSVP'ing... like she was the exception to the rule... Sadly, i think that's prevalent.
So what do you think? How best to ease non - RSVPers to RSVP promptly? Are you dealing with cultural issues in regards to the process of planning your wedding?
Wikipedia RSVP: "Répondez s'il vous plaît", a French phrase that translates to "reply, please." or literally "respond, if you please". It is with this meaning that invitation cards and similar documents are often marked with "R.S.V.P." It is standard practice to reply to an RSVP request whether confirming attendance or declining.
About.com specifies "It does not mean to respond only if you're coming, and it does not mean respond only if you're not coming (the expression "regrets only" is reserved for that instance). It means the host needs a definite head count for the planned event, and needs it by the date specified on the invitation."
Wow, I learned something new today. You see, I thought the RSVP was only if you were planning on attending the event. Now i see that you respond regardless... hmmmm
*Tape rewinds to last year*
An e-mail conversation with my cousin who's wedding was in October 2008 and she is complaining of that very thing...
Cousin Q:
koreans don't RSVP apparently.
but ... "you should know that everyone will come..." (quoting her mother/my aunt)
except of course the ones that don't bother to let you know that they have other plans, and let you find out through the grapevine...
The funniest thing about this convo, was my first response to my cousin would be, "well you know everyone is coming"... of course!!! But with our mother's family of 4 girls and 3 boys, and then all us cousins and second cousins - it's very hard to keep track of things...
The truth of the matter is, I think the concept of the RSVP is just very new to Koreans (1.5 generation or less). And yes, this is a blanket general statement and does NOT apply to all!
Even now, many Koreans are still having the weddings with open invitations, no reply cards included, Buffet style with everyone from your church and beyond showing up. Centerpieces were gone by the time the bride and groom actually entered the church hall b/c the older women had already gotten their food, eaten it, disposed of it and were on their merry way with your wedding centerpiece in hand headed home...
The formal weddings with invitations and reply cards, seated dinners, place cards, adults only and more, is just a concept that we are only getting used to now. And by "we", I mean "my Korean relatives, friends and etc"... although i do think its pretty common... here's why:
After googling the topic, a couple similar comments on online boards:
Camille writes: "We still have about 100 potential guests who have not yet RSVPed. Our wedding is about 5 weeks away. Now here is the problem. About 50 of them are Koreans. As I understand from talking to my in-laws Koreans are not really used to RSVP. They just show up on the wedding day. Chances are also that they show up with their husband or wife."
Mrs. Butterfly writes: "I know people are horrible about returning RSVP’s to begin with, especially Koreans, so I’m hoping this will make it at least that much more convenient. Just fill it out and drop it in!"
So it's not just me... So, what i did for some of my relatives is that I didn't even include an RSVP card. Why bother? They won't send it back. I'll waste paper and a stamp. Even when i told my mother she needed to RSVP, she just laughed and said "but why, you/they know i'm coming."
But i will give credit where credit is due, a few of her friends did RSVP and they did it early. I asked her if one "ajuma" was married to a non-Korean. She responded "No, that ajuma is just kinda like that" in regards to her actually RSVP'ing... like she was the exception to the rule... Sadly, i think that's prevalent.
So what do you think? How best to ease non - RSVPers to RSVP promptly? Are you dealing with cultural issues in regards to the process of planning your wedding?
January 25, 2010
RSVP Update
As of the scheduled "please kindly rsvp by January 23, 2010"... here is the tally:
Yes 31
Yes without telling me who you are 1
No 12
No without sending in RSVP b/c you lost it 1
Stay tuned to read my post about RSVP'ing and my peeps (aka Koreans)...
Yes 31
Yes without telling me who you are 1
No 12
No without sending in RSVP b/c you lost it 1
Stay tuned to read my post about RSVP'ing and my peeps (aka Koreans)...
Perfect Gift... for any occasion!
I recently attended and was part of several weddings in 2009. From being in the bridal party to coordinating for the day of and just being part of the early stages of planning, I had such a blast in every little way ... and it was even more special for me b/c these were all my friends who i shared this with.
I've talked about Stephanie from Geezees Custom Canvas Art before (here)... in fact, she did a giveaway on my site... but I finally got to use her myself. Not only was she super easy to work with, my non-creative mind needed her guidance to really make the gifts I had created special... She helped me personalize a gift that was meaningful and heartfelt. The turnover time was quick and her detailed questions really helped me to figure out what i wanted to do for each photo... so check this out:
Kelly & Russ's Wedding:
Michelle & Rob's Wedding:
Barbara & Barret's Wedding:
Janelle & Larry's Wedding:
Christine & Ben's Wedding:
You will notice on some canvases nothing was written, on others name, location and/or date, and then for one i had the lyrics of their first song. Much of these were just depending on the person or the type of image I thought they would want to hang in their home and also, Stephanie helped with her suggestions. Each of my friends LOVED their gifts and found the personalized touch so special. I was so pleased b/c it was something that I was involved with. I put thought into it. I picked the photos and contemplated if words should be added or not. In other words, my not so creative self got to be involved in something creative and meaningful. I am so happy with the work done and couldn't be more thrilled that I was able to give them something that helped to memorialize their wonderful day in a way that no one else had.
Definitely check out Stephanie's site Geezees Custom Canvas Art and Her blog... if you need a great gift idea (not just wedding)... and Valentine's day IS coming up soon! (hint hint), I'd highly recommend this b/c its just so unique and puts a personal touch on your gift.
I've talked about Stephanie from Geezees Custom Canvas Art before (here)... in fact, she did a giveaway on my site... but I finally got to use her myself. Not only was she super easy to work with, my non-creative mind needed her guidance to really make the gifts I had created special... She helped me personalize a gift that was meaningful and heartfelt. The turnover time was quick and her detailed questions really helped me to figure out what i wanted to do for each photo... so check this out:
Kelly & Russ's Wedding:
Michelle & Rob's Wedding:
Barbara & Barret's Wedding:
Janelle & Larry's Wedding:
Christine & Ben's Wedding:
You will notice on some canvases nothing was written, on others name, location and/or date, and then for one i had the lyrics of their first song. Much of these were just depending on the person or the type of image I thought they would want to hang in their home and also, Stephanie helped with her suggestions. Each of my friends LOVED their gifts and found the personalized touch so special. I was so pleased b/c it was something that I was involved with. I put thought into it. I picked the photos and contemplated if words should be added or not. In other words, my not so creative self got to be involved in something creative and meaningful. I am so happy with the work done and couldn't be more thrilled that I was able to give them something that helped to memorialize their wonderful day in a way that no one else had.
Definitely check out Stephanie's site Geezees Custom Canvas Art and Her blog... if you need a great gift idea (not just wedding)... and Valentine's day IS coming up soon! (hint hint), I'd highly recommend this b/c its just so unique and puts a personal touch on your gift.
January 24, 2010
Miss Now Mrs GIVEAWAY
Wanna win a free gift card to an easy and simple way to change your name? Whether you are a recent bride, a future bride or a bride from years past ... if you need help changing your name or will, enter now to win your FREE gift card to get a FREE way to simple name changing. Using Miss Now Mrs you can't go wrong and it can not get easier! :)
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and
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You can enter once until January 25, 2010 11:59 EST and a winner will be chosen at random. Feel free to elaborate or vent on any of the two above too, I'd love to get an idea of what is useful for brides today who are reading today's blogs.
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Make sure that you subscribe to my blog, or my Facebook Fan Page or my Twitter to stay on top of who the winner will be and feel free to pass it on.
All you have to do is leave me a comment here... and tell me two things...
1) Your favoritest thing about wedding blogs
and
2) Your least favoritest thing about wedding blogs.
You can enter once until January 25, 2010 11:59 EST and a winner will be chosen at random. Feel free to elaborate or vent on any of the two above too, I'd love to get an idea of what is useful for brides today who are reading today's blogs.
Make sure you leave a way for me to contact you if you are the winner!
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Blessings
This little one is the newest addition to FH's family... and I was recently given the honor to be her Godmother...
I am so blessed!
I am so blessed!
January 23, 2010
NJ Bridal Shower
Today is my bridal shower in NJ... hosted by my FSIL with the help of my MOH and BM. I'm super excited. My mom flew out from CA for it... But now she's laid up sick at the in laws and probably won't be able to attend !! Boooo
Fill ya in more after the weekend :)
Fill ya in more after the weekend :)
January 22, 2010
Weekly New and Updates
Have you checked out the new Storkie Express, Inc Website... talk about an interactive dream. My favorite part is the customization of all the cool bridal shower inviations?... Head on over and check out there new site!
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DC Brides: Hitched Salon is announcing the newest addition to our fabulous collection of designers – Christos! Designed by Amsale (you love her Amsale line already carried at Hitched), the Christos line evokes a feeling of romance, femininity, and old-world glam. ... To welcome this fantastic collection to Hitched, join us at our first ever Christos Trunk Show, Friday and Saturday, January 29th and 30th. (by appointment only) RSVP: 202-333-6162 or appointments@hitchedsalon.com
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Don't forget to register now for the 2nd Annual Luxury Bridal Show from the DC Couture Wedding Consortium. Space is limited! And make sure to stop by and say hi to me :)
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The Chocri customized Chocolate Bar website is finally up... go and order your bulk chocolate for your wedding now!
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Alyssa Ettinger Design is offering brides-to-be 25% off discounts on her porcelain bottles and glowy lanterns which are perfect at any wedding table.
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Win free wedding photography from Chris Leary, details can be found via online media release or on his website Woooohoooo
Guess what this is
Last fitting and just picked up my dress. This was probably one of the easiest transactions I've had that dealt with my wedding. Mega-kudos to Virginia at La Belle Boutique in Jersey City. More to come about how wonderul this experience has been.
My Enzoani Dakota Dress and Diana Belt are comin' home with me!!
Can I wear them to my shower tomorrow please???
Last fitting and just picked up my dress. This was probably one of the easiest transactions I've had that dealt with my wedding. Mega-kudos to Virginia at La Belle Boutique in Jersey City. More to come about how wonderul this experience has been.
My Enzoani Dakota Dress and Diana Belt are comin' home with me!!
Can I wear them to my shower tomorrow please???
Hair Inspiration
Found this via Confessions of an Obsessive Planner and had to note it in my inspiration for my hair stylist...
January 21, 2010
Weddzilla Launch Party
Weddzilla.com, the first online social wedding platform to fully integrate the wedding planning process into popular social networks, is excited to announce our National Launch Party, set for Thursday, February 25 at The National Museum for Women in the Arts in Washington, DC.
Who: The event will be hosted by Weddzilla’s Sassiest Wedding Guru, Steve Kemble, a Red Carpet Correspondent for the American Music Awards and Golden Globes, star on TLC’s “Battle of the Wedding Planners”, and contributor to Us Weekly Magazine’s Fashion Police.
The buzz around the launch continues to grow as we prepare to unveil our star-studded Weddzilla Guru Panel. We will be announcing the rest of our Gurus in the upcoming weeks!
What: Weddzilla.com's National "Rock the Launch" Party
Where: The National Museum for Women in the Arts, Washington D.C.
When: February 25, 2010 from 6:00PM- 9:00PM
Why: Join the Weddzilla.com community as we “Rock the Launch” for an evening of specialty cocktails, culinary creations, celebrity meet-and-greets, and a silent auction with all proceeds benefiting The Children’s National Medical Center.
Launch Partners for the Event: Federal City Catering, Mervis Diamond Importers, Disc Jockeys on Call, Petal’s Edge Floral Design, A La Lucia, The Ritz-Carlton, Professional Bartender Association, Elegance and Simplicity, Perfect Honeymoons and Holidays, Carola Meyers Make-Up, All Seasons Pressed Floral, Paired Images, Seasons Cards and Gifts, Exclusively Entertainment, Party Rentals Ltd., and Event Digital Photography, Prime Transportation
Weddzilla.com Strategic Partners: AdornBrides.com, US Airways, MissNowMrs.com, Wedding Cakes Across America, Association for Wedding Professionals International, Maryland Wedding Professionals Association, Intercontinental Hotel Group, Association of Certified Professional Wedding Consultants and the D.C. Green Wedding Consortium
Press Inquiries:
Press availability from 4:00PM- 5:30PM
Please contact: Sara Morgan (Director of Marketing)
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Who: The event will be hosted by Weddzilla’s Sassiest Wedding Guru, Steve Kemble, a Red Carpet Correspondent for the American Music Awards and Golden Globes, star on TLC’s “Battle of the Wedding Planners”, and contributor to Us Weekly Magazine’s Fashion Police.
The buzz around the launch continues to grow as we prepare to unveil our star-studded Weddzilla Guru Panel. We will be announcing the rest of our Gurus in the upcoming weeks!
What: Weddzilla.com's National "Rock the Launch" Party
Where: The National Museum for Women in the Arts, Washington D.C.
When: February 25, 2010 from 6:00PM- 9:00PM
Why: Join the Weddzilla.com community as we “Rock the Launch” for an evening of specialty cocktails, culinary creations, celebrity meet-and-greets, and a silent auction with all proceeds benefiting The Children’s National Medical Center.
Launch Partners for the Event: Federal City Catering, Mervis Diamond Importers, Disc Jockeys on Call, Petal’s Edge Floral Design, A La Lucia, The Ritz-Carlton, Professional Bartender Association, Elegance and Simplicity, Perfect Honeymoons and Holidays, Carola Meyers Make-Up, All Seasons Pressed Floral, Paired Images, Seasons Cards and Gifts, Exclusively Entertainment, Party Rentals Ltd., and Event Digital Photography, Prime Transportation
Weddzilla.com Strategic Partners: AdornBrides.com, US Airways, MissNowMrs.com, Wedding Cakes Across America, Association for Wedding Professionals International, Maryland Wedding Professionals Association, Intercontinental Hotel Group, Association of Certified Professional Wedding Consultants and the D.C. Green Wedding Consortium
Register and Sign up here
Press Inquiries:
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Please contact: Sara Morgan (Director of Marketing)
January 20, 2010
The Wedding Registry Quandry
I recently came upon this great article via Times Union blog Simpler Living from Naomi Selden titled: Is it rude not to want a normal wedding registry? With permission, I want to share a different perspective on the "normal" wedding registry and see how you feel. The wedding registry can be a touchy subject, but its also a very interesting one...
When I moved in with my now-fiance, our intent was to look for a bigger place “at a later date.” We’ve decided that our location, for the price, is a gem for a number of reasons, and we’d rather sacrifice space and stay where we are.
We have a storage bin full of stuff that is duplicates that at some point we are going to sit down, inventory and try to liquidate. Most of it is stuff we don’t need, that I wanted to hold onto “just in case”: extra pots and pans, for example.
I’m worried about creating a registry, which I’ll likely be expected to do, and then accumulate more stuff. It might be nice to get some fine china, and we could really use new bedding, but aside from a few key things, I really can’t think of much that we need.
I was planning to not have a wedding shower, but I was gently informed by my future-MIL that her sisters were already joyfully talking about it, and they would be terribly disappointed if I didn’t have one. Since it is so important to them, I likely will have a shower, for which people will inevitably want some sort of registry.
The fiance and I have joked about putting “silly” things on there (video games, season tickets to the Yankees, a Kindle — thank Amazon Universal Wish List!), but I’ve read far too many blogs and articles about people who “ask for money” (which, really, who couldn‘t use?), or do “honeymoon registries,” characterizing them as entitled jerks. I, personally, wouldn’t mind if no one got us anything at all! I just want this to be a time to celebrate with the people we hold most dear.
So this is my long-winded way of asking: How do you intend to tackle this very sensitive issue?
Here’s my answer:
I can relate to this bride. Like her, I also plan to register for things like real flatware (we’ll donate our old sets when the time comes). And like her, I’m also uncomfortable asking for money, even indirectly via things like gift cards.
After giving it some thought, here’s what I’m telling her (and myself):
1. If you haven’t already, tell your mother-in-law what you’ve told me.
Ask her for her suggestions, and listen. But also stand your ground. She knows what your living situation is, so I’m hoping that will help. And don’t forget that these days, a lot more people understand that not all couples need help setting up their first homes — because they already have, on their own.
2. Do not, under any circumstances, register for things you don’t need or want.
There’s no better way to guarantee that you’ll end with useless stuff that you then have to find a place for, give away or return.
3. Give people options.
A lot of couples create more than one wedding registry. So sign up for yours (choosing gifts at various price points) at Bed, Bath & Beyond, Amazon or whatever else floats your boat. The more choices you give your guests, the more likely it is that they’ll find a gift they really want to give you.
One of my friends registered for a Deluxe Scrabble set for her bridal shower. I love Scrabble, so I was so much happier to get her that than something for her kitchen or bathroom.
My favorite gifts are experiences, so I’d actually love it if my guests could give us movie passes and gift certificates for restaurants we like. We’d definitely use both.
And personally, I think a honeymoon registry is a brilliant idea. So …
4. Stop reading blogs and articles that tell you that not wanting charger plates and a china tea set makes you an entitled jerk.
Because you aren’t one. Some people will never understand why others want certain things (or don’t). Ignore them, and move on.
5. Accept every gift you get graciously, even the ones you don’t want.
Some people will inevitably ignore your wishes and show up at your shower or wedding with a blender, toaster or chip-and-dip bowl. Thank them, then decide what to do with their gift: keep it, regift it or return it for something you can use.
Try to keep perspective in these cases. The spirit of the gift really does count, and every one of your guests who takes the time and effort to give you one deserves a sincere thanks. And I’m sure you know (as do I) that we’re both privileged to be in this position.
6. When you get something new, get rid of the old one.
Professional organizers call this the “one-in, one-out” rule. By keeping the gifts you like and donating or selling your older duplicates, you can upgrade without adding to your clutter.
I also love that you say this: “I just want this to be a time to celebrate with the people we hold most dear.” I agree wholeheartedly, and I think you’ll find that’s what your guests want for you, too. Good luck, and congratulations!
What’s your advice?
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One of my recently engaged readers wrote in with a wedding registry question:When I moved in with my now-fiance, our intent was to look for a bigger place “at a later date.” We’ve decided that our location, for the price, is a gem for a number of reasons, and we’d rather sacrifice space and stay where we are.
We have a storage bin full of stuff that is duplicates that at some point we are going to sit down, inventory and try to liquidate. Most of it is stuff we don’t need, that I wanted to hold onto “just in case”: extra pots and pans, for example.
I’m worried about creating a registry, which I’ll likely be expected to do, and then accumulate more stuff. It might be nice to get some fine china, and we could really use new bedding, but aside from a few key things, I really can’t think of much that we need.
I was planning to not have a wedding shower, but I was gently informed by my future-MIL that her sisters were already joyfully talking about it, and they would be terribly disappointed if I didn’t have one. Since it is so important to them, I likely will have a shower, for which people will inevitably want some sort of registry.
The fiance and I have joked about putting “silly” things on there (video games, season tickets to the Yankees, a Kindle — thank Amazon Universal Wish List!), but I’ve read far too many blogs and articles about people who “ask for money” (which, really, who couldn‘t use?), or do “honeymoon registries,” characterizing them as entitled jerks. I, personally, wouldn’t mind if no one got us anything at all! I just want this to be a time to celebrate with the people we hold most dear.
So this is my long-winded way of asking: How do you intend to tackle this very sensitive issue?
Here’s my answer:
I can relate to this bride. Like her, I also plan to register for things like real flatware (we’ll donate our old sets when the time comes). And like her, I’m also uncomfortable asking for money, even indirectly via things like gift cards.
After giving it some thought, here’s what I’m telling her (and myself):
1. If you haven’t already, tell your mother-in-law what you’ve told me.
Ask her for her suggestions, and listen. But also stand your ground. She knows what your living situation is, so I’m hoping that will help. And don’t forget that these days, a lot more people understand that not all couples need help setting up their first homes — because they already have, on their own.
2. Do not, under any circumstances, register for things you don’t need or want.
There’s no better way to guarantee that you’ll end with useless stuff that you then have to find a place for, give away or return.
3. Give people options.
A lot of couples create more than one wedding registry. So sign up for yours (choosing gifts at various price points) at Bed, Bath & Beyond, Amazon or whatever else floats your boat. The more choices you give your guests, the more likely it is that they’ll find a gift they really want to give you.
One of my friends registered for a Deluxe Scrabble set for her bridal shower. I love Scrabble, so I was so much happier to get her that than something for her kitchen or bathroom.
My favorite gifts are experiences, so I’d actually love it if my guests could give us movie passes and gift certificates for restaurants we like. We’d definitely use both.
And personally, I think a honeymoon registry is a brilliant idea. So …
4. Stop reading blogs and articles that tell you that not wanting charger plates and a china tea set makes you an entitled jerk.
Because you aren’t one. Some people will never understand why others want certain things (or don’t). Ignore them, and move on.
5. Accept every gift you get graciously, even the ones you don’t want.
Some people will inevitably ignore your wishes and show up at your shower or wedding with a blender, toaster or chip-and-dip bowl. Thank them, then decide what to do with their gift: keep it, regift it or return it for something you can use.
Try to keep perspective in these cases. The spirit of the gift really does count, and every one of your guests who takes the time and effort to give you one deserves a sincere thanks. And I’m sure you know (as do I) that we’re both privileged to be in this position.
6. When you get something new, get rid of the old one.
Professional organizers call this the “one-in, one-out” rule. By keeping the gifts you like and donating or selling your older duplicates, you can upgrade without adding to your clutter.
I also love that you say this: “I just want this to be a time to celebrate with the people we hold most dear.” I agree wholeheartedly, and I think you’ll find that’s what your guests want for you, too. Good luck, and congratulations!
What’s your advice?
Votives - CHECK!
I need votives for our reception and possibly cocktail hour. My great and amazing Coordinator Paola, sent me this link and it is the cheapest i've found for simple yet pretty votives on ebay...
144 White votives and 144 Clear Votive holders. Bargain price of $79.99 including shipping. Bought 2 sets. WOO WOO! having them shipped to CA! WOO WOO! One thing more checked off the list.
Image borrowed from here!
144 White votives and 144 Clear Votive holders. Bargain price of $79.99 including shipping. Bought 2 sets. WOO WOO! having them shipped to CA! WOO WOO! One thing more checked off the list.
Image borrowed from here!
January 19, 2010
Day of Getting Ready Shots
I'm very excited about the day of pictures. I found an amazing photographer, Jordana from Hazelnut Photography and we're still on the fence but looking to probably book an unlimited hour package so we can capture as much as we can. Capturing the memories is our Splurge area of our budget.
I sent out an email to the bridal party as a whole. It was to get us all on the same page. After sending it out - FH starts IM'ing me some concerns. Let me replay this for you, here's part of the email i sent out:
SATURDAY
Groomsmen: Since y'all take less time to get ready, just anticipate being ready by 1pm. FH will need to be ready by 12:30 PM for our "first look". I believe the photographer will be arriving to take your getting ready photos about 10:30 am-ish... so plan to be in the suite with FH by then with your tuxes/suits and all that jazz.So the IM I get is:
FH: I really dont like nor have ever heard of the guys having "getting ready pictures"...i really dont want to be photographed getting dressed
slight pause
FH: he can come in and take pics of us in the room, but not while we are getting dressed. maybe while trying to tie our ties or something...
pause
FH: i really don't want some guy hanging around taking pictures of me and my friends in our underwear
REALLY? ... REALLY!!!??? OMG.
So I had to explain to FH that there would be no underwear shots (unless he wanted them) and that its just photos of him hanging with his groomsmen, taking their first swig... laughing and having a good time... something like this:
Boys drinking, hanging out... last moments of clarity before you walk down the aisle!
Image source: Michelle Murphy Photography
Or silly like this shot ... which I especially love and think the boys may actually have some fun getting silly!
Image from Annie Warren Photography Blog
So once it was explained to FH... he realized, he did want these photos. His last moments of bachelorhood documented... so i had to send out an addendum to the first email...
Just FYI: When the Groomsmen are "getting ready" and having their pictures taken, this will not involve any nudity or running around in boxers/chonies (undies) while being photographed... There will be nobody asking to primp each other's hair or checking of each other's makeup while being photographed. The men will be fully clothed and it will be pictures of putting the last touches on their tux (ties/buttons/jackets), having that first shot/beer together and other such images of the guys... well being guys and hopefully, the photographer can capture some of the fun.
Apparently there was some confusion, and FH was about to call off the wedding... this is completely legit photos. Completely non pornographic. And will be some of the most memorable shots of the day for the guys... probably b/c it'll be the most sober as well.
I still stick with 10:30 AM but mostly b/c i know y'all will be late...
Thanks for humoring me and having these photos taken...
BOYS!!! *SIGH*
Just FYI: When the Groomsmen are "getting ready" and having their pictures taken, this will not involve any nudity or running around in boxers/chonies (undies) while being photographed... There will be nobody asking to primp each other's hair or checking of each other's makeup while being photographed. The men will be fully clothed and it will be pictures of putting the last touches on their tux (ties/buttons/jackets), having that first shot/beer together and other such images of the guys... well being guys and hopefully, the photographer can capture some of the fun.
Apparently there was some confusion, and FH was about to call off the wedding... this is completely legit photos. Completely non pornographic. And will be some of the most memorable shots of the day for the guys... probably b/c it'll be the most sober as well.
I still stick with 10:30 AM but mostly b/c i know y'all will be late...
Thanks for humoring me and having these photos taken...
BOYS!!! *SIGH*
January 15, 2010
Honeymoon Booked... Kinda
Ok. Ok. Ok.... so this is big news b/c we finally figured this out. And it kinda just came together, but of course as is with anything i'm doing wedding-related, its not THAT easy... so here's our plan.
My lovely future in-laws are offering their timeshare. Yippee Skippee for free honeymoon, right?! RIGHT!
So we found out that Continental airlines flies direct to St. Maarten from Newark. Perfect. We drive up the turnpike, drop the pups off to stay with the grandparents and hop on a direct flight to the islands... WOOT WOOT.
But it was difficult to figure out which place to stay at, and Tripadvisor and Virtual Tourist were helpful, but possibly TOO helpful. It seems that everyone is a critic, so its hard to know which gripes are valid... but I did find one place. Divi Little Bay Resort that the Timeshare reviews were decent even though Tripadvisor had a 68% rating. But when i looked to trade in the week... nothing available. BOOOO!!!
So i kept looking and found a few others, but after finally deciding on Divi... I was resistant. BUT I did find out that we could use our miles and go first class with 5k less miles each way. COOL. But of course it was day specific.
So then, the next day FH tells me his BIL's parents actually have their timeshare AT DIVI and that they LOVE IT and that its hard to get a week there. This reminds me to look again at our options and guess what? YUP YUP! That's right... i found a week open!!!
We wanted to go at the end of June, but instead the week was for the end of July. We confirmed the timeshare.
Our honeymoon is BOOKED!!!!!
Ok, well not the flight yet... and the only way we can get that first class deal was to fly in a day before timeshare check in and to fly out a day before timeshare check out... kinda sucks and means we need a hotel. BUT... BUT... St. Maarten Westin (SPG POINTS BABY) or my friend's and family rate for the Westin is $139/night... so we still get our full week. and we pay very minimal ... and still fly FIRST CLASS! WOOOOO...
But being as Relentless as I am... You know imma keep checking to try to get the Sat-Sat first class flight LOL... let's hope this time it pays off.
Here's a pic of the resort:
My lovely future in-laws are offering their timeshare. Yippee Skippee for free honeymoon, right?! RIGHT!
So we found out that Continental airlines flies direct to St. Maarten from Newark. Perfect. We drive up the turnpike, drop the pups off to stay with the grandparents and hop on a direct flight to the islands... WOOT WOOT.
But it was difficult to figure out which place to stay at, and Tripadvisor and Virtual Tourist were helpful, but possibly TOO helpful. It seems that everyone is a critic, so its hard to know which gripes are valid... but I did find one place. Divi Little Bay Resort that the Timeshare reviews were decent even though Tripadvisor had a 68% rating. But when i looked to trade in the week... nothing available. BOOOO!!!
So i kept looking and found a few others, but after finally deciding on Divi... I was resistant. BUT I did find out that we could use our miles and go first class with 5k less miles each way. COOL. But of course it was day specific.
So then, the next day FH tells me his BIL's parents actually have their timeshare AT DIVI and that they LOVE IT and that its hard to get a week there. This reminds me to look again at our options and guess what? YUP YUP! That's right... i found a week open!!!
We wanted to go at the end of June, but instead the week was for the end of July. We confirmed the timeshare.
Our honeymoon is BOOKED!!!!!
Ok, well not the flight yet... and the only way we can get that first class deal was to fly in a day before timeshare check in and to fly out a day before timeshare check out... kinda sucks and means we need a hotel. BUT... BUT... St. Maarten Westin (SPG POINTS BABY) or my friend's and family rate for the Westin is $139/night... so we still get our full week. and we pay very minimal ... and still fly FIRST CLASS! WOOOOO...
But being as Relentless as I am... You know imma keep checking to try to get the Sat-Sat first class flight LOL... let's hope this time it pays off.
Here's a pic of the resort:
Image borrowed from Divi Little Bay
Hip Hip Hooray for (Almost) booked Honeymoons!!!
January 14, 2010
Shoes - CHECK!!!
It took me over a month to locate them all...ALL 8 pairs!
Oover 20 phone calls, several minutes on hold at each place and hours of driving everywhere for me to locate these shoes. But we did it (thanks also to my BM who looked in SD and found 3 pairs there). Let me present my shoes... the shoes that are not on the internet anywhere but for my own tweets about searching for them... the Nina Shoe Etella in Steel and New Navy Tulle... (I'll be in the Steel, my girls in the Navy)
FINALLY... I can say the shoes are ... CHECK!
And to go along with that, i did order the Solemates by bulk - 10 of them for the 10% off :)
Oover 20 phone calls, several minutes on hold at each place and hours of driving everywhere for me to locate these shoes. But we did it (thanks also to my BM who looked in SD and found 3 pairs there). Let me present my shoes... the shoes that are not on the internet anywhere but for my own tweets about searching for them... the Nina Shoe Etella in Steel and New Navy Tulle... (I'll be in the Steel, my girls in the Navy)
FINALLY... I can say the shoes are ... CHECK!
And to go along with that, i did order the Solemates by bulk - 10 of them for the 10% off :)
January 13, 2010
Our Mini-Moon
We have decided on what to do regarding Postponing our Honeymoon. True to my west coast roots... (i'm not knocking AC, but i grew up with Vegas...) We are doing our Mini-moon immediately after the wedding in the City that Never Sleeps... the City of Sin... Yup, that's right peeps, VEEEGGGGAAASSSS! And we won't even be sinning when we go there - wooo wooooo!!! It's kind of funny that what spurred this all was The Hangover - a movie about what you don't want to happen if your FH went to Vegas for a Bachelor party. LOL.
Here are the deets and why it worked out...
Transportation - CHECK!!
My Future in-laws HAVE to rent a big SUV when they arrive in Orange county. I priced their SUV and it was extravagant. I'm talking over $500 for a Tuesday-Sunday rental. So i thought i'd just check what a Tuesday OC Pick up with a Following Wednesday (8 day rental) drop off in Las Vegas would cost and it was at minimum of a $200 SAVINGS!!!! I didn't question it... i double checked it a couple times running each search over and over again and i was seeing clearly. AWESOME!
Hotel - CHECK!!
Originally, we considered staying at the St. Regis an extra night so as to not rush right off the resort the day after. We got a killer rate on a nice suite so we thought - no honeymoon, let's do the splurge. Well that one night is still more than our three nights in LV... and how did we swing this?
Sunday, we will slowly make our way off the resort. Drop off his family at the airport. I don't want to rush away from my family, so probably have some time with them. We will drive out to LV after dinner Sunday evening. And Check in at the Paris hotel - COMPED through FH's rewards card. (Gotta love going midweek) Since we are arriving at who knows what time, i didn't want to book at a hotel we had to pay for.
Monday - Wednesday, we are booked at the ENCORE WYNN LAS VEGAS RESORT SUITE KING (that's a standard room). 700+ sq ft of glorious space in hotel neither one of us have visited yet in Vegas. So it'll be new for us both and i've heard the Encore is absolutely sexy with amazing food. Lucky for me, my friend was able to swing me a discount code that got us rooms at $119/night. Um, yea... IN A SUITE! WWWWWOOOOOOOOOHHOOOOOOOO! Excuse the excitement. but i love vegas.
Flight home - CHECK!
We were able to score one way tickets from LAS-EWR for $129 direct each. Granted we did lose our originally booked ticket value but that's mostly b/c we got them so cheap it would have cost us more to cancel and change then to just rebook. (dang $150 change fee charges are RIDONKULOUS!)
Extra Perk - CHECK!
Still gets us back in time for hopefully a quick drive by to see his Niece on her birthday!
Mini-Moon Booked? .... CHECK!!!! YAY!!!
Here are the deets and why it worked out...
Transportation - CHECK!!
My Future in-laws HAVE to rent a big SUV when they arrive in Orange county. I priced their SUV and it was extravagant. I'm talking over $500 for a Tuesday-Sunday rental. So i thought i'd just check what a Tuesday OC Pick up with a Following Wednesday (8 day rental) drop off in Las Vegas would cost and it was at minimum of a $200 SAVINGS!!!! I didn't question it... i double checked it a couple times running each search over and over again and i was seeing clearly. AWESOME!
Hotel - CHECK!!
Originally, we considered staying at the St. Regis an extra night so as to not rush right off the resort the day after. We got a killer rate on a nice suite so we thought - no honeymoon, let's do the splurge. Well that one night is still more than our three nights in LV... and how did we swing this?
Sunday, we will slowly make our way off the resort. Drop off his family at the airport. I don't want to rush away from my family, so probably have some time with them. We will drive out to LV after dinner Sunday evening. And Check in at the Paris hotel - COMPED through FH's rewards card. (Gotta love going midweek) Since we are arriving at who knows what time, i didn't want to book at a hotel we had to pay for.
Monday - Wednesday, we are booked at the ENCORE WYNN LAS VEGAS RESORT SUITE KING (that's a standard room). 700+ sq ft of glorious space in hotel neither one of us have visited yet in Vegas. So it'll be new for us both and i've heard the Encore is absolutely sexy with amazing food. Lucky for me, my friend was able to swing me a discount code that got us rooms at $119/night. Um, yea... IN A SUITE! WWWWWOOOOOOOOOHHOOOOOOOO! Excuse the excitement. but i love vegas.
Flight home - CHECK!
We were able to score one way tickets from LAS-EWR for $129 direct each. Granted we did lose our originally booked ticket value but that's mostly b/c we got them so cheap it would have cost us more to cancel and change then to just rebook. (dang $150 change fee charges are RIDONKULOUS!)
Extra Perk - CHECK!
Still gets us back in time for hopefully a quick drive by to see his Niece on her birthday!
Mini-Moon Booked? .... CHECK!!!! YAY!!!
January 12, 2010
DC USPS Fail Vent
I don't mean to be a grumpy butthead, but I have to take a moment to just vent and complain.
I'm very excited that my invitations got sent out yesterday, but it wasn't without some mishaps (which seem to ALWAYS happen to me with anything that is wedding related.). I was near tears and ready to punch someone in the face if my arms weren't full of invitations that were nicely organized in a box.
I had twittered the night before about asking for suggestions for a good USPS location in the downtown DC area... I know that most of the DC postal workers i've encountered AT the USPS were always just mean. You'd smile, say hello - ask how their day was... and mostly get grunts, or mumbles and hardly a smile. GENERALLY speaking... b/c i have had a few really nice people... but generally. And some great people responded on twitter to give me a suggestion or two - THANK YOU GUYS!!!
I'm very excited that my invitations got sent out yesterday, but it wasn't without some mishaps (which seem to ALWAYS happen to me with anything that is wedding related.). I was near tears and ready to punch someone in the face if my arms weren't full of invitations that were nicely organized in a box.
I had twittered the night before about asking for suggestions for a good USPS location in the downtown DC area... I know that most of the DC postal workers i've encountered AT the USPS were always just mean. You'd smile, say hello - ask how their day was... and mostly get grunts, or mumbles and hardly a smile. GENERALLY speaking... b/c i have had a few really nice people... but generally. And some great people responded on twitter to give me a suggestion or two - THANK YOU GUYS!!!
January 11, 2010
Invitations - CHECK!!!
My invitations have gone out today. Yup ... They are BYEBYE... OMG. No turning back now, right?
Our lazy sunday was spent watching football, but we also got our outer envelopes from Kelly from Calligraphy by Kelly Ann so while we enjoyed some play off games, we also spent some time ... oh, embossing, labeling, stamping, stuffing and sealing... and now our invites ARE done!!!
So here's a recap of our invitations... I am so thrilled with my outer envelopes... She did an AMAZING job and I didn't realize how personal it would make my invitations seem. Not only affordable, Kelly finished about 175 outer envelope addresses in 3 weeks after giving birth to her THIRD daughter about 6 weeks ago. Yes, i do believe this woman is superwoman... I'm in awe of her talent and her passion for this and super UBERLY ecstatic about how my envelopes came out.
Our lazy sunday was spent watching football, but we also got our outer envelopes from Kelly from Calligraphy by Kelly Ann so while we enjoyed some play off games, we also spent some time ... oh, embossing, labeling, stamping, stuffing and sealing... and now our invites ARE done!!!
So here's a recap of our invitations... I am so thrilled with my outer envelopes... She did an AMAZING job and I didn't realize how personal it would make my invitations seem. Not only affordable, Kelly finished about 175 outer envelope addresses in 3 weeks after giving birth to her THIRD daughter about 6 weeks ago. Yes, i do believe this woman is superwoman... I'm in awe of her talent and her passion for this and super UBERLY ecstatic about how my envelopes came out.
January 08, 2010
Weekly New and Updates
Wedding Welcome Bags for out of town guests are a final detail usually passed onto someone in the family or wedding party and let's face it - haven't they already done enough?! Researching, purchasing, packing and wrapping all just days before the wedding... what's a fabulous bride to do?
Check out Sara's Gracious Goodies... they are a local NY based business and take great pride in combining many of NY's finest local vendors and even include local hand delivery to the hotels in out price - helping to avoid any bridezilla moments
On January 4, 2010, OneWed will celebrate the 2nd annual "Matrimony Monday," the biggest day of the year for wedding planning. Nearly 35-40 percent of all proposals in the US happen during the winter holidays and the first day back at work after engagement season is when brides immediately jump online to start the planning process.
* it allows you to customize the invite
- it makes sure you don't leave out any one or any important details (woops!)
* then it gives u the most fitting invitation wording to match the bride
Sandra at Friedasophie Etsy store handcrafts 14 gold gemstone jewelry. She specialize in custom orders for bridesmaids and bridal jewelry. She can create any piece from my store in any matching color set for matching bridesmaids color themes.
So check out FriedaSophie online store to see more!
Check out Sara's Gracious Goodies... they are a local NY based business and take great pride in combining many of NY's finest local vendors and even include local hand delivery to the hotels in out price - helping to avoid any bridezilla moments
So if you need help with your OOT Welcome Bags, definitely check them out!
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On January 4, 2010, OneWed will celebrate the 2nd annual "Matrimony Monday," the biggest day of the year for wedding planning. Nearly 35-40 percent of all proposals in the US happen during the winter holidays and the first day back at work after engagement season is when brides immediately jump online to start the planning process.
To reward new brides-to-be, OneWed is hosting the ultimate giveaway for one lucky future bride: the "Off-the-Chart" Wedding Giveaway, with nearly $15,000 worth of wedding day essentials. Couples can enter simply by creating their own Wedding Pre-Party and inviting friends and family to join. For every invitation successfully accepted by a guest, the couple receives an additional entry to win.
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* mini questionnaire about bridal style, personality, reception plans etc.* it allows you to customize the invite
- it makes sure you don't leave out any one or any important details (woops!)
* then it gives u the most fitting invitation wording to match the bride
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So check out FriedaSophie online store to see more!
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Five in 5 teaches you 5 facial exercises that can help to melt away signs of aging. This application is available on iTune and i've also downloaded it. I totally believe in facial exercises to help the elasticity of your skin as well as promote circulation into the area... Check it out!
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The Perfect Proposal - Fact or Fiction?
What makes the "PERFECT" proposal? Now being in prime engagement season... i'm hoping to hear great stories of various proposals... i love all the details!! And it makes me realize that the "PERFECT" proposal is like the "Mr. Right"... for each person its different...
A friend, when her hubby proposed years ago, he had planned this beautifully detailed and extravagant day. I believe the proposal went something like this... after spending a day on an island off the coast of California, as they were being helicoptered back to the mainland, she was told to look down...on the sands of the beach in tiki torches it said, "Will you Marry Me?" Very movie-like! After we heard of this proposal, my girlfriends and I were like - can you really go all out anymore than what he did?
Another friend, who on her first day of vacation with her boyfriend, was proposed to in Mexico. Another friend was proposed to right before a trip to the east coast to see family with her now husband. A surprise dinner and romantic walk on the beach, which then led to a proposal for yet another friend. And of course, the proposal that was almost spoiled by the almost too eager girlfriend, patting down her now-husband in expectation of the ring.
One story i've heard that just makes me chuckle, the boyfriend couldn't wait any longer and barged into the bathroom and proposed to the girlfriend while she was on the toilet!!!!!!!! In a cute way, his excitement makes the moment still VERY romantic even if she was on the sh*tter! lol
I think the list goes on and on... the end story is, each one of my friends received a proposal by the man that they love. Albeit, each one of our stories are very different and romantic each in their own way... but ultimately, I feel very well suited for each one of us...
As for my proposal...well it was perfect. Absolutely perfect for me! Absolutely perfect for him! Absolutely perfect for us. My FH had kept the fact that he was actually purchasing the diamond any time soon. We had found a stone we both liked at a local jewelry store, but we weren't sure about the setting to purchase. We discussed it for a while and then ran into some road blocks-mainly financial. Finally we decided, it'd be best to wait, b/c i still was unsure about going with a fancy colored diamond instead of the classic colorless, various finance issue, and of course the reality of an impending engagement kinda freaked us both out. FH decided summer time would be a great time to revisit the subject. The week of (possibly only a week or two later after our resolved conversation), i jokingly kept asking FH "Is it summer yet?" not knowing that our "summer" was right about to arrive.
Long story short, FH proposed by surprising me at home the day of our youngest pups Golden Birthday. {We were throwing a birthday bash for Kota at a local bar by renting out the first floor. (Yes, crazy i know - but people showed up... WITH GIFTS)!} FH had requested permission from my brother (apparently having to call him many times urgently) hoping to be able to get his blessing before i arrived home that afternoon. I arrived home early to prepare for Kota's party and was surprised to find him home, and when i entered the bedroom he was on one knee, box in hand...and to be honest, I don't know what he said... I assume it was "will you marry me"? But it could have been, "I've fallen, can you help me up?" I of course, was just shocked he got the stone we had both seen, so exclaimed " YOU GOT IT?". He says that i never actually answered him, so he asked me again to which i emphatically said "YES"!
What made our proposal story perfect for us, is that #1 It was in our first home together. We are somewhat homebodies, and considering that FH claims he has social anxiety... having anybody else around but us two, probably wouldn't have worked out well for FH or myself. It was intimate and about just me and him! Perfect for him and I. #2 It was the stone I wanted. I say stone b/c it was merely the stone. FH was afraid he'd pick the wrong setting ... apparently he thinks I'm a bit picky... (lol, not sure why.) So we had to send out the stone to get it set (almost 5 weeks of excruciating pain waiting...but it was well worth it.) #3 it was a special day for me, as it was Kota's birthday - but the day picked was merely b/c he couldn't wait. He was eager to give it, just as eager as i was to receive it! But the timing was perfect. #4 and ultimately the main reason it was perfect, was b/c it was FH. He could have proposed to me while I was on the sh*tter or in the sewers of DC... as long as it was from him... it would be perfect. Absolutely perfect...
So ultimately, i realized, that there is a perfect proposal. The perfect proposal can contain elements of limos, flowers, chocolates, fancy dinners and such... but the most important factor to any perfect proposal... is the person who is proposing. That's what makes a proposal perfect. The story that goes along with the perfect proposal is just icing on the already perfect cake!
Does your perfect proposal come with a fun story? What elements did you think really made your moment unique?
A friend, when her hubby proposed years ago, he had planned this beautifully detailed and extravagant day. I believe the proposal went something like this... after spending a day on an island off the coast of California, as they were being helicoptered back to the mainland, she was told to look down...on the sands of the beach in tiki torches it said, "Will you Marry Me?" Very movie-like! After we heard of this proposal, my girlfriends and I were like - can you really go all out anymore than what he did?
Another friend, who on her first day of vacation with her boyfriend, was proposed to in Mexico. Another friend was proposed to right before a trip to the east coast to see family with her now husband. A surprise dinner and romantic walk on the beach, which then led to a proposal for yet another friend. And of course, the proposal that was almost spoiled by the almost too eager girlfriend, patting down her now-husband in expectation of the ring.
One story i've heard that just makes me chuckle, the boyfriend couldn't wait any longer and barged into the bathroom and proposed to the girlfriend while she was on the toilet!!!!!!!! In a cute way, his excitement makes the moment still VERY romantic even if she was on the sh*tter! lol
I think the list goes on and on... the end story is, each one of my friends received a proposal by the man that they love. Albeit, each one of our stories are very different and romantic each in their own way... but ultimately, I feel very well suited for each one of us...
As for my proposal...well it was perfect. Absolutely perfect for me! Absolutely perfect for him! Absolutely perfect for us. My FH had kept the fact that he was actually purchasing the diamond any time soon. We had found a stone we both liked at a local jewelry store, but we weren't sure about the setting to purchase. We discussed it for a while and then ran into some road blocks-mainly financial. Finally we decided, it'd be best to wait, b/c i still was unsure about going with a fancy colored diamond instead of the classic colorless, various finance issue, and of course the reality of an impending engagement kinda freaked us both out. FH decided summer time would be a great time to revisit the subject. The week of (possibly only a week or two later after our resolved conversation), i jokingly kept asking FH "Is it summer yet?" not knowing that our "summer" was right about to arrive.
Long story short, FH proposed by surprising me at home the day of our youngest pups Golden Birthday. {We were throwing a birthday bash for Kota at a local bar by renting out the first floor. (Yes, crazy i know - but people showed up... WITH GIFTS)!} FH had requested permission from my brother (apparently having to call him many times urgently) hoping to be able to get his blessing before i arrived home that afternoon. I arrived home early to prepare for Kota's party and was surprised to find him home, and when i entered the bedroom he was on one knee, box in hand...and to be honest, I don't know what he said... I assume it was "will you marry me"? But it could have been, "I've fallen, can you help me up?" I of course, was just shocked he got the stone we had both seen, so exclaimed " YOU GOT IT?". He says that i never actually answered him, so he asked me again to which i emphatically said "YES"!
What made our proposal story perfect for us, is that #1 It was in our first home together. We are somewhat homebodies, and considering that FH claims he has social anxiety... having anybody else around but us two, probably wouldn't have worked out well for FH or myself. It was intimate and about just me and him! Perfect for him and I. #2 It was the stone I wanted. I say stone b/c it was merely the stone. FH was afraid he'd pick the wrong setting ... apparently he thinks I'm a bit picky... (lol, not sure why.) So we had to send out the stone to get it set (almost 5 weeks of excruciating pain waiting...but it was well worth it.) #3 it was a special day for me, as it was Kota's birthday - but the day picked was merely b/c he couldn't wait. He was eager to give it, just as eager as i was to receive it! But the timing was perfect. #4 and ultimately the main reason it was perfect, was b/c it was FH. He could have proposed to me while I was on the sh*tter or in the sewers of DC... as long as it was from him... it would be perfect. Absolutely perfect...
So ultimately, i realized, that there is a perfect proposal. The perfect proposal can contain elements of limos, flowers, chocolates, fancy dinners and such... but the most important factor to any perfect proposal... is the person who is proposing. That's what makes a proposal perfect. The story that goes along with the perfect proposal is just icing on the already perfect cake!
Does your perfect proposal come with a fun story? What elements did you think really made your moment unique?
January 07, 2010
CA Venue: Ponte Family Estate
CA Brides, looking for a unique and beautiful venue for your wedding?
Check out Ponte Family Estate.
· Host a wedding in January 2010 for up to 100 guests and receive 33% off wedding packages
· Host a wedding in February 2010 for up to 100 guests and receive 25% off wedding packages
· Host a wedding in March 2010 for up to 100 guests and receive 20% off wedding packages
· Host a wedding at Ponte before April 30, 2010 and receive a case of wine at the time of booking
Check out Ponte Family Estate.
Image via Justin Hulse Photography
Ponte Family Estate’s is having fabulous wedding specials.
· Host a wedding in January 2010 for up to 100 guests and receive 33% off wedding packages
· Host a wedding in February 2010 for up to 100 guests and receive 25% off wedding packages
· Host a wedding in March 2010 for up to 100 guests and receive 20% off wedding packages
· Host a wedding at Ponte before April 30, 2010 and receive a case of wine at the time of booking
Located in the heart of Temecula Wine Country among 310 acres of vineyards and gardens, Ponte Family Estate is the most elegant winery in the area. The Estate is fully equipped to host fabulous weddings in a breath taking, wine country setting. They have an amazing team of wedding coordinators on site to help in all stages of the planning…they even offer a bridal butler or “Love Butler” to make sure the bride and groom have everything they need the day of the wedding.
Postponing our Honeymoon
So FH and I are postoning our Honeymoon... have i mentioned this?
Well, for various reasons but mostly just financial... it's off-peak if we go later in the summer and currently, I am on a case that will be over about summertime too... so the stress of the case won't be hanging overhead while on holiday for me...
But, my boss encouraged us to take at least a couple days before we return to work... and i didn't think about it until watching The Hangover the other night. LOL Yes, the hangover makes me want to go to VEGAS!
I love VEGAS... i'm sure that's pretty apparent, but since we're in CA anyways, why not hop, skip and jump on over to vegas, right?
Well, one prob - we already booked our flights home. So we can cancel and rebook - basically losing our full value b/c of the cancellation policy ($150 - fo' serious?)... but it could be worth it... and Vegas midweek is never too expensive... hmmm...
Another option... take our flight as intended back to NJ and go to AC.... Hmmm.... What to do what to do...
Being a west coast girl, i love me some vegas... AC would be ok, but its not vegas - - -
What should we do?
Well, for various reasons but mostly just financial... it's off-peak if we go later in the summer and currently, I am on a case that will be over about summertime too... so the stress of the case won't be hanging overhead while on holiday for me...
But, my boss encouraged us to take at least a couple days before we return to work... and i didn't think about it until watching The Hangover the other night. LOL Yes, the hangover makes me want to go to VEGAS!
I love VEGAS... i'm sure that's pretty apparent, but since we're in CA anyways, why not hop, skip and jump on over to vegas, right?
Well, one prob - we already booked our flights home. So we can cancel and rebook - basically losing our full value b/c of the cancellation policy ($150 - fo' serious?)... but it could be worth it... and Vegas midweek is never too expensive... hmmm...
Another option... take our flight as intended back to NJ and go to AC.... Hmmm.... What to do what to do...
Being a west coast girl, i love me some vegas... AC would be ok, but its not vegas - - -
What should we do?
January 06, 2010
2 Months... Yikes
OMG. I'm two months away.
No freak out. No freak out...Just BREATHE!!!!
First dress fitting went well (motivated me), CA Bridal Shower went well, got my wedding band (pic below), working on getting FH's wedding band, invites will be sent this week hopefully... 95% close to booking Welcome party (meal) and shuttles... PHEW!!!
SIGH
Sadly, i'm a little sad its going by so quickly... I Love bride world and not sure if i want to leave yet...
Here's my wedding band:
No freak out. No freak out...Just BREATHE!!!!
First dress fitting went well (motivated me), CA Bridal Shower went well, got my wedding band (pic below), working on getting FH's wedding band, invites will be sent this week hopefully... 95% close to booking Welcome party (meal) and shuttles... PHEW!!!
SIGH
Sadly, i'm a little sad its going by so quickly... I Love bride world and not sure if i want to leave yet...
Here's my wedding band:
Hair * Make Up Inspiration
I love this bride's hair and make up. I'm thinking maybe do a similar hair style but with the hair not off to the side... idk... but it inspired me, so i thought i'd share
This is from Design Visage Blog:
I think the bride looks stunning... over to Design Visage to see more pictures from her wedding :)
This is from Design Visage Blog:
I think the bride looks stunning... over to Design Visage to see more pictures from her wedding :)
January 05, 2010
Wedding Band
OMG. So i decided i'd just stop by Jared - Galleria of Jewelry to try on a few bands on Monday... and I walked out with my wedding band. LOL... I WENT TO JARED! Don't worry - FH paid for it ;-)
So, my ring as you know is not the typical ring... (see here for images). Well a friend mentioned that a contour ring could fit and i wouldn't have to send my ring in for weeks to get a custom band... so, I decided i should try some on. Especially after spending about 4 hours online just perusing the various selections, how would i know what it looks like without trying it together...
Well, I did try on a contour... the band wasn't the same type of band as my engagement ring, so it didn't look right... but it also didn't look TOTALLY awful... Here's an image:
A little too chunky but the contour wasn't too bad... you couldn't see the space between too much. However, i couldn't wear the wedding band alone ever... and FH didn't like that it detracted from my engagement ring
So then i tried on this:
Ok, so this one is not flush. You can see the space. BUT it can be worn independently and it doesn't look TOO bad together... and the size was perfect to match the pave setting of my engagement ring... It's a Scott Kay too, and i got it on sale... I even googled it at home to see if i could have gotten it cheaper... and YAY. i can't. lol ( i need to reaffirm the price, else its going back lol). Not only did the diamonds look the same, but the ring was the PERFECT Size... no sizing needed... hmmm....
So whaddya think? Did any of you do something that didn't technically "match" but works for what you want?
So, my ring as you know is not the typical ring... (see here for images). Well a friend mentioned that a contour ring could fit and i wouldn't have to send my ring in for weeks to get a custom band... so, I decided i should try some on. Especially after spending about 4 hours online just perusing the various selections, how would i know what it looks like without trying it together...
Well, I did try on a contour... the band wasn't the same type of band as my engagement ring, so it didn't look right... but it also didn't look TOTALLY awful... Here's an image:
A little too chunky but the contour wasn't too bad... you couldn't see the space between too much. However, i couldn't wear the wedding band alone ever... and FH didn't like that it detracted from my engagement ring
So then i tried on this:
Ok, so this one is not flush. You can see the space. BUT it can be worn independently and it doesn't look TOO bad together... and the size was perfect to match the pave setting of my engagement ring... It's a Scott Kay too, and i got it on sale... I even googled it at home to see if i could have gotten it cheaper... and YAY. i can't. lol ( i need to reaffirm the price, else its going back lol). Not only did the diamonds look the same, but the ring was the PERFECT Size... no sizing needed... hmmm....
So whaddya think? Did any of you do something that didn't technically "match" but works for what you want?
January 04, 2010
Bridetide's Top 100 Wedding Blogs for 2010
Guess who made Bridetide's Top 100 Wedding Blogs for 2010...
Yup, that's right... The Relentless Bride ... YAY!!!
We are categorized under the Practical Wedding section squashed between two AWESOME blogs
Be sure to check out the list... so many AMAZING blogs listed on there, and i know there probably a few left out, so be sure to comment your suggestions for the other blogs that should have made that list :)
We are categorized under the Practical Wedding section squashed between two AWESOME blogs
Happy New Year
So, its taken me a few days to get my bearings straight... I can't believe it is 2010. OMG. I'm sure we've heard it over and over again, but fo' serious... TIME FLIES!
Ok, so to keep me accountable... I've got to tell y'all what my NY resolutions are, right?
1. My attitude: I get angry really easily. I'm highly irritable and I need to focus on taking a breathe before I freak out...
2. My health: I'm doing my best to drop another 15 pounds before the big day - but basically incorporating cardio, trying to run, doing the 100 push up challenge and trying to get my Shred on... (need lots of encouragement for this one)
Those are my main two long term resolutions.
Another gray cloud which has been hovering over my attitude of late is my wedding and the fact that my father will not be there. I've not mentioned it... while I have created drafts of post but never published them... b/c I guess once i click "publish" it makes the issues that much more real... But i do want to talk them through and am hoping that I can do so before the wedding... and this is yet a short term resolution I have... to talk this out... talk it through. Come to terms with and find closure on this issue.
2 months out and if there was gonna be a change, it would have happened and its important that I let this go before the big day... so I hope that when i am able to talk about this on my blog, that I will have the support and encouragement of you guys - b/c it means so much to me...
**Deep Breathe**
Life is good. It can always be better. It can always be worse... but my satisfaction comes in knowing that I'm in control of my own fate... right? RIGHT!
Ok... So Happy New Year Y'all... 2010 is gonna be great!
Ok, so to keep me accountable... I've got to tell y'all what my NY resolutions are, right?
1. My attitude: I get angry really easily. I'm highly irritable and I need to focus on taking a breathe before I freak out...
2. My health: I'm doing my best to drop another 15 pounds before the big day - but basically incorporating cardio, trying to run, doing the 100 push up challenge and trying to get my Shred on... (need lots of encouragement for this one)
Those are my main two long term resolutions.
Another gray cloud which has been hovering over my attitude of late is my wedding and the fact that my father will not be there. I've not mentioned it... while I have created drafts of post but never published them... b/c I guess once i click "publish" it makes the issues that much more real... But i do want to talk them through and am hoping that I can do so before the wedding... and this is yet a short term resolution I have... to talk this out... talk it through. Come to terms with and find closure on this issue.
2 months out and if there was gonna be a change, it would have happened and its important that I let this go before the big day... so I hope that when i am able to talk about this on my blog, that I will have the support and encouragement of you guys - b/c it means so much to me...
**Deep Breathe**
Life is good. It can always be better. It can always be worse... but my satisfaction comes in knowing that I'm in control of my own fate... right? RIGHT!
Ok... So Happy New Year Y'all... 2010 is gonna be great!
January 03, 2010
Double Malcom Fontier Giveaway Winner
So its time to announce the winner of the Double Malcolm Fontier Giveaway.... Thank you all for entering and make sure to check out the Weddzilla Blog to see who the winner is over there!
The winning Entry from Laura K :
Congrats Laura, make sure to contact me at amyjean {at} RelentlessBride {dot} com so i can put you in touch with Malcolm Fontier to receive your prize!
The winning Entry from Laura K :
January 02, 2010
The "Kee to my heart" (and fitness)
My blog friends rock. With so much inspiration and support, its no wonder I turn to you guys all the time.
Please check out Kari's Post at Kee To Your Heart Blog.... she dedicated her NEW YEARS post to me, and i'm so inspired... y'all better keep badgering me about my workouts :)
This post totally started off my new year right. I'm encouraged, motivated and know i can do this :)
Please check out Kari's Post at Kee To Your Heart Blog.... she dedicated her NEW YEARS post to me, and i'm so inspired... y'all better keep badgering me about my workouts :)
This post totally started off my new year right. I'm encouraged, motivated and know i can do this :)
January 01, 2010
Link Library Update
Time to update my link library with the new year...
Go here
If you aren't there, please email me at amyjean {at} relentlessbride {dot} com so i can update ya - leaving me your blog/site title and the url.
If you are there, but things have changed - send me your updates.
If you are there and want off :-( let me know too
Time to update ... ROCK N ROLL!!!
Oh yeah, and please stay up to date by following my blog, following me on twitter, and/or my facebook fan page! Muchos Gracias !
Go here
If you aren't there, please email me at amyjean {at} relentlessbride {dot} com so i can update ya - leaving me your blog/site title and the url.
If you are there, but things have changed - send me your updates.
If you are there and want off :-( let me know too
Time to update ... ROCK N ROLL!!!
Oh yeah, and please stay up to date by following my blog, following me on twitter, and/or my facebook fan page! Muchos Gracias !
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