I recently read the article by LZ Granderson, Parent's don't dress your girls like tramps off CNN.com and had to share!
If you haven't read it, i suggest you click on the link above and read it, but i can give you a short summary of the article. (all things italicized are sourced from Granderson's article)
Granderson starts off describing a very sexy and pretty looking young thing at the airport... wearing a halter top and low waisted sweatpants... and then states "Yeah, that 8-year-old girl was something to see alright. ... I hope her parents are proud. Their daughter was the sexiest girl in the terminal, and she's not even in middle school yet."
His article goes on to talk about the sexualization of young girls and how consumer goods are catering to 7 year olds in push up bras (disgusting!) and the like... but then he shifts the blame and goes on to say, you can't really blame retailers b/c if there wasn't a need for it, they wouldn't create it. Which is so very true.
"It's easy to blast companies for introducing the sexy wear, but our ire really should be directed at the parents who think low rise jeans for a second grader is cute."
He then discusses his own son and how he refuses to let his son walk out of the house with pants sagging under his a**. He acknowledges that this refusal to let your child do as they please can cause tension, but "but I'm his father, not his friend. Friends bow to peer pressure. Parents say, "No, and that's the end of it."" (that statement needed a bold and underline!)
I appreciate how Granderson goes on to say "The way I see it, my son can go to therapy later if my strict rules have scarred him. But I have peace knowing he'll be able to afford therapy as an adult because I didn't allow him to wear or do whatever he wanted as a kid. Maybe I'm a Tiger Dad."
BRAVO BRAVO! He says exactly what I feel. Sure I don't have kids to back this up, but i've got lots of nephews and nieces-and I treat them as I would my own. Luckily our siblings and their significant others, give us that leeway to say "no" when we need to and discipline them if we ever needed (and we actually don't have to). But i'd be the first to tell them "no, you are NOT wearing that!" even if it means being the not so nice Aunt for the day.
We often like to shift blame as to who is at fault for the things that go wrong with our children, but at the end of the day - it is the parents responsibility to raise your children the way you think is right. Like Granderson says "A line needs to be drawn, but not by Abercrombie. Not by Britney Spears. And not by these little girls who don't know better and desperately need their parents to be parents and not 40-year-old BFFs."
Take responsibility is key. Be a parent first, a friend second... one day, your child will thank you for it! and if they need therapy from the "tiger parenting", like Granderson says, at least you know they will be able to afford the therapy as an adult from the "tiger parenting".
This just hit home, even without my own children, so much so that I had to share...