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October 19, 2011

Our first BirthCare visit

A friend recently asked me about how my Dr. visits were going and why I haven't blogged about it. Well, I told her I recently had an appointment when I returned from CA and in fact it was no longer at with the Obstetrician I was seeing for the early part of our pregnancy. And then i realized... I should journal it.

We recently were taken off the wait list at a BirthCare birth center close by. So my most recent appointment was with the mid-wife there and it was my first with the birth center. The appointment was early in the morning and surprisingly (or perhaps not surprisingly) very different than my appointments with my obstetrician's office.

I came in and signed in (pretty typical!). Because it was my first visit, I did the usual thing of filling out more forms and handing over my ID and insurance card. I then used the restroom to empty my bladder for "your own comfort" and then took my own blood pressure and weight and wrote it down. Any one who goes to a regular OB knows that typically a nurse will come in and take your blood pressure and weight for you. So it was slightly different.

After sitting for five minutes, i was introduced to the midwife and we went into her "office" which was more like a small living room with a desk and examination table. It was definitely a different feel. There was no rushed "let's hear the heartbeat" and "do you have any questions?" and then a gentle push out the door. In fact, we sat and talked about my medical history for about 30 minutes, any things that I was experiencing and going over any possible questions I could have. I had told her I really didn't have too many questions, but yet walked out more informed than before.

We also did a general examination which was SO different than the ones at an OB's office. The same amount of privacy was given, but it was much more gentler. She spoke to me about what she was doing before she did it and as she was doing things. She also warned me about what my body may go through after the examination and what was normal or abnormal. It was very thorough.

The appointment overall had a whole different tone to it than i experienced at the OB. The idea of being "accomodate[d] within reason" by my OB regarding my birth plan wishes are no longer a worry, b/c the midwives seem to really listen to my concerns and wishes. The focus seems to have shifted to the Baby and me, and less on the convenience of the OB's and nurses... and that was apparent in just the pre-natal appointment.

I've been told its important to really be in sync with your health care provider and to really trust them, and now I know that even if its uncomfy or not the thing you want to deal with, it is important to take the steps to find a great and caring provider.

Overall, it was a great appointment, and i'm looking forward to my next one - the glucose screening!!!


  1. Wow, this sounds so different and more personal than what I've heard about classic OB appointments. I'm glad you were able to find someone you feel so comfortable with.

  2. I'm glad your appt. went well. If I ever have another kid I may go that route but for the first one I just felt more comfortable with an OB since I didn't know if I would encounter any serious issues. I think midwives are a great option though.


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